Sharing

 Sharing 

The definition of the word-to give a portion of something to another, to use, occupy or enjoy jointly. 

How many times a day do we utter the words-you have to share.

The question is why do children have to share? In our deep rooted need to instill good values in children, we often find ourselves uttering this phrase over and over again, sometimes out of habit instead of reflection of what we are actually asking children to do when they are deeply involved in an experience.

The truth is they don't need to share if they chose not to.

The question should be would you like to share or can Billy join you?

Should the child not have an option?

If we value that children are competent and capable and in control of their experiences, then the choice should be theirs.

When children are busy at play, they have intention with the materials and toys they are engaging with. The minute a new child steps in, the trajectory of their work changes. Hence the need to ask permission before forcing them to give away part of their materials and truly their thinking.

We must offer children the same respect that we as adults expect.

Imagine you are in the middle of a delicious lunch and someone barges in and demands you share?

Food for thought-instead of saying share try asking- may or would you like and accept no for answer.

Your third teacher, the environment, should always have an abundance of availably, so children, when they are told that Billy does not want to share, find other options with little disappointment.

When children say no to a request to share or join in do not leave them feeling they have disappointed you instead acknowledge their choice.